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Personal Experience: Overcoming Life's Closed Roads

Over the course of everyone’s life, we come against closed roads. Somewhere in our carefully laid out plan, something goes wrong and throws a wrench in our entire system. These events can be everything from self inflicted disasters to health problems completely out of our control. Regardless, they derail our once steady track and throw us into a state of disbelief and confusion. The strong overcome these obstacles and find a detour in their path while the weak freeze and let the closed road control their path in life. In my life, I had to find a wide detour…and here is some of the story for inspiration in your own life…

Life Under The Arches

I graduated from the University of Georgia. For those that do not already know, the historic arches on the outer edge of North Campus in between the campus and downtown are historic. With all of that history aside, undergrads at UGA are not supposed to walk under the arches until they graduate. If they do, they are cursed to never graduate and fail out miserably, so thousands of students walk around these arches on a daily basis with the goal of one day walking under them as a graduate.

My story starts at the cocky age of 18 as I entered the university as a freshman. Like any “I know everything about everything” young scholar, I didn’t believe in hoaxes so my cocky ass danced under the arches specifying it would never happen to me. As time went on, I got myself into a lot of trouble taking in the party scene of Athens, GA until I eventually got myself into trouble that was going to be very hard to get out of. The result..I ended up having to leave the university in the pursuit of getting my life back together (I have written previously about it on this post) and the dream of leaving UGA as a graduate looked bleak at best.

After years of working my ass off collecting the wreckage and trying to assemble a life I could finally be proud of…I started taking classes at a local college to get essential hours and eventually returned to UGA with hopes of graduating. After hitting a perfect window of time, I reentered UGA with several more course hours under my belt and a new outlook on my education. I commuted back and forth from Marietta 3 days a week (1.5 hour drive each way) to take classes and get that degree I sought out during my naive, adolescent years.

After hard work and focus, I was sitting in the center of Sanford Stadium graduating with hundreds of other students from UGA still checking the list of names to make sure mine was there and it wasn’t a dream.

Why This Story..and Why Now

UGA Arches - University of GeorgiaYesterday, I had the chance to walk around the campus of UGA and take in some memories. Coming back with a fresh mind and a different outlook on the past, I was able to walk under those arches as a successful graduate from the university. I didn’t end up taking the cocky path that the 18 year old had in mind. Instead, through self inflicted hurt, I took a much different path that made me who I am today and extremely humbled the inner adolescent.

I use this story illustrate to myself and others that we do not always get to pick the events in our life’s path. It is our job to use our free will to make the best we can of the time we have. When we make excuses why we can’t do something or it is just too hard, we jeopardize the incredible things that can happen in our lives. Far too often, I hear people quitting. If you really want to go after the finer things in life, you have to work hard for them.

When you are going through tough situations in your own life, you need to remember one simple fact…

Just when you think you can’t take it anymore…you are just about to make it.

Great things in life do not come without sacrifices and those that consistently look for handouts will always be begging. Happiness in your own life is accomplished by pursuing the good. Everyone has a choice and no one is a victim of circumstances.

When you take ownership of your own life, your own problems and your own successes, you get to enjoy the victories over defeat. You get to walk under the arches and feel that chill go through your body knowing that you have accomplished something for you. You get to prevail over evil and make the life you always dreamed. Leave the complaining and excuses for those that are never happy with their spot in life because you are going to enact change through action.

You are going to detour around the road blocks with a positive outlook because this is your one and only life to live. There will always be someone who has it harder and someone who has it easier…it is up to you how you handle your own life obstacles…

Is There Anything You Would Have Done Differently?

I was asked a question the other day that many of us are presented with on a regular basis. It’s an interesting one to say the least as it requires you to step outside and look in with hindsight awareness and knowledge on your life both professionally and personally.

Before we jump into it…hindsight knowledge is a funny animal. When you go into situations throughout your life, you try to make the best decisions you can given the facts presented to you at the time. With hindsight, you are able to know all of the facts and an outcome given certain actions. In essence, it is cheating and that is why I typically do not like looking at situations in hindsight.

So onto the question…

Looking back at your professional life up until this point, is there anything you would have done differently?

The short answer…no. But let me explain.

Given that this is a yes or no answer, there are two types of people that answer a certain way.

  1. If you are happy with your life and your current situation, you typically answer no.
  2. If you are unhappy with your life and current situation, you typically answer yes.

Makes sense…but let’s look into it a little bit deeper and then I’ll give you my angle.

I Wouldn’t Change A Thing

The person that is happy with their spot in life wouldn’t change a thing. Why is that? Each of the experiences in our lives brings us to where we are today. It affects the people we meet, the decisions we make and the path we eventually walk. By changing any one of these decisions and actions, we are derailing the path and we end up at a different destination.

If you are happy with your life, why would you want to change anything? Yes…there are decisions that you could have made in the past that you could have done better, but the person that answers no to this question uses this as fuel to make better decisions in the future instead of focusing on the bad decisions of the past. It isn’t regret or depression. It is motivation to become better.

I Would Have Done Things Differently

For the person that answers that they would have done things differently, this normally stems from a dissatisfaction in their current state. Instead of trying harder for the future, this person looks to the past and what they could have done differently to be in a different situation today…instead of looking where they want to be in the future. By focusing on what they can not change (the past), they can separate themselves from the responsibility and ownership of making things better.

Let’s put it this way…if you are running into people that are always complaining about how they could have done it better, they are always performing sub par to their abilities because one day they will be complaining about today. Instead of using the time an energy it takes to make a true difference, they are wasting that time worrying about thoughts and actions they can not change.

Would I Change Anything?

Absolutely not. My life has not been perfect by any stretch and I am not alone in that fact. But the experiences I have had through the course of my life has made me who I am today. My life time line has given me a beautiful wife, two great dogs, a great family and a house I can call my own. Could I have more? Sure. Are there more things I want? Absolutely, but the fact that I do want more makes me strive to be better…not worry about how I could have gotten those things in the past.

As we look back on our lives with hindsight knowledge, use those experiences for what they are…fuel for the future. That is your ammo to take on the world with the knowledge that you can be bigger and better. While others will let the past cripple their growth, you are going to use it to allow you to fly even higher…

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Interrupting Your Regularly Scheduled Program For An Online Rant

I don’t normally do this, but there is something that I just have to type out to get this frustration out of my head. During the course of my blogging, I try to make myself regularly available to my readers.

Those of you that have contacted me before know that I try to answer every email, respond to every chat request and genuinely enjoy communicating with other bloggers trying to see success in their blogging.

I do it because I love it. I really love helping out other bloggers make a living online to the point that I want to throw a big ass party for you when you are making more than I am some day. The whole process is incredible and more rewarding than you could ever imagine.

Wait for it…ok…rant starting.

Now…since I do make myself basically completely available, there is some stupid shit that comes across my desk from time to time. That’s ok…it is just part of the game these days and I try to be as respectful as possible and either ignore or answer depending on the situation.

But lately…I have gotten several people that have contacted me over chat that goes in this basic direction.

Hey Robb

Hey man how’s it going?

Good…I want to make money blogging, how do I do it?

Did you read Ramped Blogging or any of my other eBooks?

No…they are too long. I want to do it fast.

Well…there is no ‘fast’ way to make money online, so if you are looking for that solution you are asking the wrong guy.

How much do you make?

More than a full-time income for most people, but it came after a lot of long nights. Not right away.

Is this a scam or for real?

Man…I am pretty transparent with everything, so why don’t you take a look around my site and eBooks…Ramped Blogging is free BTW.

Cool. If I do Ramped Blogging, how much money will I make?

Look…I am trying to answer your questions but you don’t want to read my ebook that is free and you want me to give you a magical answer that doesn’t exist. Successful blogging requires a lot of work and time. There is no “make money in 30 days formula” and if you are not willing to read a short ebook on how to do it…then you aren’t willing to put in the work it takes to do it right

I am not kidding…I actually copied and pasted some of this from a recent conversation and it actually took defriending him on Facebook to get him to stop asking questions like this over a several day period. (If you are the guy that was hitting me up with this…now you know why)

The next series of questions normally follows the lines of “look at my site and give me free advice” if they already have one…

And this seriously goes on and on. I try not to be a dick…but come on! I am sick and tired of the same old routine with these kinds of people. They act like you are holding back on something or you have some secret that no one else knows about. Everything I do is 100% transparent and out there if you look (just as it is with most successful bloggers).

When I get into these meaningless conversations, I feel like I am on that Ashton Kutcher show Punked. Are you freaking serious? Is this a real person on the other end of the screen?!

Look…if you really want to make a run at things and you are struggling…I completely understand reaching out and trying to get some help. That is why bloggers like myself put out products and answer dozens of emails. We have all been there and we want to help.

But asshats like this make you want to shut off the lines of communication so you don’t have to listen to the stupidity anymore. I’m not going to do that but just know…if you come to me wanting some get rich quick solution…there isn’t one…

Picture Overload! A Small Vacation To New York City

Jenn (my wife for those of you that don’t already know) had a business trip up to NYC last week, so like any good husband…I headed up on Wednesday night to go hang out in the big city with her for a couple of days after her work obligations were complete. We have been trying to find the time to get up to New York City for awhile as her aunt and uncle live off Park Avenue and her grandma is in New Jersey. Luckily for us…her aunt and uncle were gracious enough to let us stay with them to visit and take in all that is New York City.

I knew I was going to be taking a ton of pictures, so as soon as we got there…I went to the camera store and picked up a Sigma 10-20mm F4 super wide angle lens to make sure I could catch all of the action. What can I say?! I am a camera geek at heart too…

Our Vacation To New York City

So here is my recap of NYC as it was my first trip ever to the big city. I think we shoe horned in as much as you can see into a 4 day long weekend as you can. I am pretty sure that we covered almost every square foot of NYC and my knees can feel it! I ended up taking over 500 pics, so here are the highlights.

The NYC Subway

We used the subway for everything. It was really surprising to me how easy it was to use. In fact, it was easier to get across town in NYC than it is to get to the restaurant down the street from my house! The ease of transportation is addictive and makes you want to have that exact same thing at home. Plus…I even got to see a couple of cheesy magic acts on a couple of trips.

Grand Central Station in and of itself is simply amazing. The way they are able to move that mass quantity of people through numerous trains is mind blowing. It is no wonder that other cities try to emulate what NYC does for public transportation.

NYC Subway Downtown

NYC Subway Sign

New York City Subway

Grand Central Station in NYC

Times Square In New York City

The first night we actually stayed in the New Yorker because that is where Jenn had been staying all week. Being two blocks from Times Square…you know we had to go check it out. We actually ended back up in that area 2 more times over the course of the trip.

Times Square is basically a huge tourist attraction and it makes me feel like I am in downtown Tokyo with all of the bright light signs. It is a pretty cool site to sit back and look at from the outside. We snapped a couple of shots including one on the red steps that are built for discount show tickets.

Times Squre at Night in New York City

Red Steps In Times Square New York City

Ground Zero – World Trade Center Site

During this trip, I really wanted to take some time to see Ground Zero. I think it is very easy to forget how horrific the events of September 11th are and we need to keep that constant reminder of what we are really up against. Thousands of people have given their lives in the attacks, volunteering, serving our cites and serving our country to protect the freedoms that we take for granted in the US on a daily basis.

The size of the site is much bigger than you could ever imagine and now it is a huge construction site. They are building a new tower with a park spanning the rest of the site dedicated to those that were lost. When it is done, it should be incredible.

We also went through the chapel next to the site where they served over 4,000 meals a day to help with the volunteer effort. It is mind blowing what took place in that area not that long ago.

Ground Zero Construction

Eternal Flame

World Trade Towers Eternal Flame

Badges of Police and Fireman Lost In September 11th Attacks In Chapel

NYC Badges

The Financial District

The financial district has always appealed to me…for obvious reasons (economy major). It was really cool to take walk around and watch all of the people and see the buildings. Much of the US economy is based out of those city blocks.

New York Stock Exchange

New York City Stock Exchange

Financial District in New York City

Bull in NYC

Broadway and Wall Street

Ellis Island and the Statue of Liberty

You can’t make a trip to NYC and not see the Statue of Liberty right?! We waited in line in the blistering cold to get on the ferry and head over to the two islands. This trip actually had special importance to Jenn as both sides of her family came through Ellis Island. We found both names and took some pictures. It is a surreal experience to sit and think about how many families are in the United States today because of Ellis Island.

Ellis Island

Ellis Island

Jann Name Ellis Island

Jann Name Ellis Island

Statue of Liberty

Shopping In NYC

As you can probably guess…we did some shopping while we were up there. NYC has to be every woman’s dream. There are also a couple of cool guy toy stores like B & H Photo, Adorama, FAO Schwarz and some of the coolest Apple Stores you have ever seen (great for this complete Mac geek).

Soho Apple Store (old Post Office)

Apple Store New York City Soho

Glass Apple Store Across from Central Park

Glass Apple Store NYC

Shopping in New York City

Cobble Stone Streets In Soho

Cobblestone In Soho

FAO Schwarz “Big” Keyboard

FAO Schwarz Big Keyboard

Biking In NYC

As you guys already know from Bike198.com, I am a huge bike geek. So…I had to take a couple of shots of bike commuters and several bike related things around New York City.

Helping Biker into Bike Shop

Commuter Bike Fixed Gear

Bike Commuter In NYC

New York City Sights

One of the things I love about visiting new places is seeing new things (especially old new things). In Atlanta, everything was burned to the ground during the Civil War, so we do not have any really cool old buildings. As you go throughout New York City, there is some incredible architecture that you just don’t get to see in the south. Plus…there are some other famous places that you hear about all of the time but then get to see in person.

Radio City Music Hall

Ice Skating at Rockefeller Center

Ice Skating at Rockefeller Center

Flat Iron Building

Flat Iron Building New York City

Empire State Building at Night (view from aunt/uncle building)

Empire State Building in New York City at Night

St. Patricks Cathedral

St. Patricks Cathedral New York City

Snow in Central Park

Snow in Central Park New York City

It really was an incredible trip and a much needed time away from the keyboard. My wife and I got to spend several days together and see family which doesn’t happen much these days with everything going on. One of these days…I just might have to get a place up there!

New York City

Jenn with New York City Cops

Video Podcast: How To Increase Blogging and Life Productivity

Last night, I was talking to Kelly Diels and we got onto the subject of what I have had going on the past year and my plans for 2010. She asked me a question that I hadn’t really thought about seriously…but was doing automatically.

When you are looking at how you spend your time and how you want to grow you blog, there are not enough hours in the day to get everything done when you want to. Time is our only constraint in life…so we have to figure out how to use it efficiently.

When things started shooting towards the stars with my blogging (and I thank those lucky stars every day), I really had to change the way I was living to accomplish my goals. The following video podcast are my thoughts on basic time management and how things changed in my life. It also touches on relationships and how we need to handle them as we grow our blogs.

It’s not too long…just over 5 minutes. This video was shot with my MacBook Pro built-in iSight camera and iMovie ’10. I didn’t use my expensive editing software and cameras (I have a background in post production) to show that you do not need a full out editing suite to video blog effectively.

Word of warning: I look much younger than I am! I hear that comment every time I post a video! Also, this was a quick cut together…one take…just throw it up there. This is me on a Friday morning! I am going to try to get in more of these types of posts…so look for more in the future from RobbSutton.com.

Blogging and Life Productivity – RobbSutton.com from Robb Sutton on Vimeo.

Winter Weather Shuts Down Atlanta!

I know it doesn’t look like much for you guys that live with this crap all year long, but Atlanta officially shut down last night due to winter weather. Under all of that pretty white stuff that falls from the sky was a nice thin layer of ice that never seemed to leave today.

We do not get snow and ice very often, but when we do…all milk, canned goods and bread are gone from the grocery store in anticipation of 24 hours of hell! Anyway…I have 4 wheel drive and traction control…so my only real worry are the other idiots out on the road over reacting and running into each other. There were reports all day long of 25 car pileups due to ice. In their defense…we do not really have the man power or equipment to salt and care for our roadways like the crews up north. We just get to play bumper car ice skating and hope the aftermath isn’t too rough.

Over the course of the next couple of days, we get to live in the ice as the temps are not even going to top 20 degrees. So…I’m not riding my bikes this weekend and instead…I’ll be hard at work bringing out more blogging greatness (or so I like to think when my ego is on the left shoulder) and finishing up the redesign/move that took place with mtbtrailreview.com moving to Bike198.com last weekend. More on how to move domains and rebrand in a later article as it is what runs through my head for the month of January.

Hope everyone is having a great start of the year as I had one of my biggest monetary weeks to date! So here is to a fantastic start to 2010! Woot! Oh yeah…and pictures of my truck with white stuff on the ground.

Shot with my Nikon D80 and edited with Lightroom 2

Chevrolet Avalanche Silver Birch LT 4x4

Chevrolet Avalanche Silver Birch LT 4x4

2010 Is YOUR Year

2009 is but a distant memory and 2010 is a 365 day span of a blank canvas waiting to be painted. 2009 came with its own sets of challenges, fears and accomplishments. As one of the most difficult professional years of many people’s lives, we saw a sharp contrast between extreme success and utter failure as we navigated the uncertain economic times. We made it out…we pushed through and we used this frustration to further develop and enhance our own lives. Why? Because other people, places and things are not going to determine our moods and our success.

2010 Is YOUR Year

All of the sweat, tears, long hours and frustration are going to pay off in 2010. All of that work you did while others were complaining is going to add up if it has not already. 2010 is the year we all push forward with our goals to reap the rewards of hard work during a time where others sat back to wait. All of the time you have been putting into your blogs, businesses and stepping that one more step in front of your co-workers or competition is going to see huge rewards in 2010.

We are at the bottomless apex. We are on the verge of greatness. We are ready to continue the push as we have made it out of the wreckage. We are smarter for it and we have no excuses.

Are you going to waste all of the time in 2009 by being lazy in 2010? Do you have your new goals set? Are you ready to attack these next 365 days like they were your last? It is up to you, me and everyone else who fails to concede to the opposition. Are you going to let another individual continue to determine your worth in 2010? Are you going to keep the same complaints and excuses?

Now is the time. The time to get up and make 2010 YOUR YEAR. It is yours to take…and yours to give away…

A Look At RobbSutton.com in 2009

2009 was a HUGE year for RobbSutton.com. There was a lot going on in front of and behind the scenes to continue to bring valuable blogging and lifestyle design content through the air waves and to the screen of your computer. As we look forward to the promising year of 2010, I wanted to take a quick look back on 2009 and what exactly went on during this great blogging year. But…before we jump into some of my favorites from this past calendar year, I want to take the chance to thank all of you for supporting this site (and my others if you follow those) over the past year. It has been a blast interacting with you as we both work to grow our blogs.

Ebooks…Ebooks…Ebooks…

It was a busy writing year for me! With 2009, there was the introduction and publishing of 3 ebooks on RobbSutton.com and 1 ebook on Bike198.com. I made it a goal to get these informational products done this year, and I achieved that goal plus 1. These ebooks have been an integral part of the success of RobbSutton.com over the past year and I have been incredibly happy with the result.

In July, I released the premium eBook, Ramped Reviews, that gives you all the industry secrets…ins and outs…and how to contact companies…so that you can start to get in free review product on your blog. Review product was a HUGE part of Bike198.com as we saw over $100k worth of review product come through the front doors.

Later that month, I also release Ramped Mindset as a free download through the newsletter subscription. Ramped Mindset helps you improve your way of thinking so that you can realize success. It all starts with your mindset and Ramped Mindset kicks that into gear!

The goal of RobbSutton.com is to help other bloggers see the same success I have through blogging, so in October of this year, I released Ramped Blogging…The Ultimate Blogging Guide. Ramped Blogging takes you from step 1 to step 1,000 in the pursuit of having a successful, money making blog that is growing a bigger following by the day. It is also free via the newsletter subscription, so if you haven’t picked up a copy…click here and get it today!

As a bonus…if you pick up a copy of Ramped Reviews before the end of 2009…I’ll give you 25% off using coupon code “2009″. Click here to pick up your own copy!

Guest Posting On Other Blogs

I really like connecting with readers on other blogs. It gives you a chance to get your voice heard to a new audience and it is a very rewarding experience to interact with new people. This year, I made it a focus to really hit guest blogging hard with some high quality posts on other bloggers sites. Here are some of the best of 2009.

Interviews from 2009

One of the other things I have really enjoyed throughout 2009 is getting interviewed by other bloggers about blogging and reviewing. Here are my favorite interviews from 2009.

Note: I was also named #30 on IncomeDiary’s Top 50 Most Influential Bloggers of 2009 which was a HUGE surprise and honor to be listed with that group of bloggers.

My Favorite Content from 2009

As we continue to pump out blogging and lifestyle design content…here are some of my favorite from the last calendar year…

Favorite Blogging Articles
Favorite Lifestyle Design | Personal Articles
Favorite Making Money Articles

2009 Was A Big Year!

Looking back at 2009, I am extremely happy where things headed with RobbSutton.com. As I look forward to 2010, there are several more projects I am going to launch on this site to further the content production and interaction with you guys as we continue to search out success in our own lives. Hopefully, you have received as much has I have from you this year as we look forward to the next.

Just remember…success is up to you…no one is going to hand it to you on a silver platter. And if they did…you wouldn’t appreciate it anyway. Go out and get want you want in life and leave the begging and hand holding out to those that want to complain about their spot in the world. The rest of us will enjoy this one and only life that we are going to create for ourselves.

Happy new year and thanks again for the continued support!!

Happy Holidays from Robb Sutton

Happy Holidays from my family to yours this holiday season. Thank you for the continued support and a fantastic year as we look forward to 2010.

I hope it brings as much joy, happiness and success as you have supported me with over the past year.

Keep at it and happy blogging!

Robb Sutton
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Another Year Equals Another Birthday

It happened again! Another year and now another birthday. I have been alive on this planet for one more year and counting!

My birthday falls on a unique time of the year where we are spending time with family and looking back at the previous year as we look forward to the next. 2009 and my year of being 27 was filled with a lot of ups and downs, but overall…there were more achievements than their were disasters, so I see even more hope around the corner as we continue this path of life.

It is customary this time of year for people to ask you what you want. What do you want for Christmas? In my case…what do you want for your birthday? Do you want to go out to eat? Do you want something specific under the tree or in front of the birthday cake? This year (and the last one too really), I have had a very difficult time with that question.

As I look back on the previous year of being 27 years old and the calendar year 2009, I have a hard time finding something that I want that I do not already have.

  • I have a loving wife that we got to enjoy our first full year married this year. It hasn’t been perfect as we have had to deal with some medical issues that are our of our control, but getting through it has made us stronger together. Maybe that is the point of it all…
  • I have 2 dogs that have so much personality and joy that…if they get anymore…just might start talking English and walking on their hind legs. As I mentioned previously, Hans (the male) is a rescue and that has been an incredibly rewarding experience.
  • I have a great family and a set of friends that most people would kill for. Life is about experiences and who you share those experiences with…and my friends are just as crazy as I am…so it is a great fit.
  • I have just about every physical product that you would buy off a shelf that I need. There are always things that people (me included) want, but my needs are more than met. Thanks to Bike198.com…I don’t really worry about cycling related products anymore!
  • I have a business that is growing by the day through connecting with and helping other people. The ability to help others realize their potential to create a better life for themselves has to be one of the coolest things ever! I happen to do it through this site, Bike198.com and my other blogs and if you can figure out how to get other people to live their dreams…you will understand what I am talking about. Helping others succeed in their own life is where the success really is…

2010 and my age of 28 years is going to bring some new challenges that I am looking forward to while also scared straight out of my skin!

  • My wife and I are looking to add members of the family of the 2 legged variety and that is going to be an adventure all to itself. It better not be a girl because that new Gap commercial with the boots makes me want to throw plastic at kids that are not even mine!
  • I am expanding my business in a whole new way starting next week and that is going to carry into other new projects over the coming year. Exciting times and now it is time to step it up even further in my pursuit of my perfect lifestyle.

I really have zero complaints and even if I had any…no one would listen. Any why would they?! Things are great and no matter what you do or do not have, this time of year is for remember what you do have…and not necessarily what you want. On this birthday, I am looking around and seeing my dreams come true. That is all I need…not a fancy dinner…not something that will be obsolete in 6 months…just friends, family, pets and my desire to keep getting better.

But…all of that said…my mom and dad did hook me up with some items for my office that completely kick ass.

Now…if you really want to get me something I don’t need…but want! Check out this Amazon Wish List (honestly…I have heard about these Amazon Wish Lists for a long time now and have never used the feature…wanted to give it a whirl with a couple of items I keep on my personal list). Click here to see my Amazon Wish List.

Image by Rob J Brooks