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The weeks leading up to the end of the first trimester are pretty much a roller coaster emotionally for you and your other half. It means a lot for the safety of the baby and your percentage chance of going the distance to get past that pivotal date. All focus is on getting past that point…and getting to tell everyone about it.

So what happens to the brain of a guy once that is complete?

For me…without even really realizing it…my brain went into major “I want” mode. I’m not kidding either. It is as our subconscious suddenly realizes that several months from now is the end of our gadget/fun car/get anything we want stage.

It’s not that it completely goes away…as I know plenty of dads that get to fill their hobbies and gear needs still, but you get hit with a brick wall that it is no longer a priority. The baby and the mom now take center stage and you have a few short months to get in anything you can while still be able to provide for the new member about to join your family.

Ironically, it wasn’t until I sat back and really thought about why I was having these feelings that I realized what was really going on. I can’t speak for all of the other expectant fathers of their first kid out there…but it was and still is really weird for me.

So what do I want to try to get in before the baby is born?!

Wicked White Mitsubishi Evolution X

A wicked white Mitsubishi Evolution X…and why do I want it?

  • I want to be the fastest dad in the carpool line.
  • I am on my second truck in a row so I really want something fun that is easier to park.
  • It has four doors and a nice backseat (along with about a million airbags)…so it is baby approved.
  • And most importantly…my subconscious is telling me I will never be able to have anything like this ever again!

Now I just have to convince the wife that a lower car payment and more power is a good thing. How do you think I will do? “Hey babe look! I can even get a Recaro car seat to match the seats in the car!”

The Reality…

What I am going through is probably pretty normal. I am pretty sure that when it comes to this kind of stuff I am not the first nor will I be the last. Do I have to have a fast car right now? No…but I want one.

The reality is that everything will be fine and priorities are going to shift away from stuff to family. These are all good things but the testosterone in me does not want to let go of all things fast, technical and mine.

 

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The 12 week appointment marks a pivotal point in a pregnancy…time to let the world in on your little secret.

This morning we headed into our 12 week appointment to find out that everything is going great. The heartbeat is still strong at 175 bpm, it was very easy to find and my wife is incredibly healthy. That was perfect news for us as we prepare to go to the more complicated 3D ultrasound later this week to measure the spine and do several other checks.

With everything in line, it is time to announce we are pregnant!

Everyone has their own way of doing things. Thanks to social media (aka. Facebook), we are able to let the world know like never before. After letting family know, I knew I wanted to do something a little bit different to let the cat out of the bag…so I made this video.

Now that the first trimester is ending…it is time to really get excited! (and start preparing)

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After the last doctor’s visit, we had high hopes. Everything this time around was looking much better than the last, so we were just saying our prayers and hoping for the best.

The time leading up to the 8 week ultrasound was rough. Jenn was having terrible morning sickness and having trouble keeping anything down. With some help from some nausea medication from her doctors, we were finally able to get a full meal in her the night before our doctor’s visit. To make matters even more complicated, I had to leave town for the entire week prior for work.

This entire time from finding out we were pregnant again to the 5 week ultrasound until now…we had really been cautious about getting too attached. Having just miscarried not even 3 months ago, it was almost as if this was too good to be true. Even with the more positive outlook this time around, we were still very nervous and had some anxiety leading up to this crucial point in the process.

The 8 Week Ultrasound

So on Tuesday, March 15th, 2011…we walked into the doctors office to see how things were going.

I think you could hear a pin drop as everyone in the room was waiting to see the results. As they started the ultrasound…I saw it. Our baby…alive…growing and with a heart that was strong and beating quickly. They took the measurements and we were at 8 weeks on the dot. Next…they hit the switch and I heard it for the first time.

Our babies heart was beating at a strong 175 bpm.

8 Week Heartbeat UltrasoundThere are a lot of experiences you go through in life. Up until this point in mine, that was the coolest sound that has ever graced my ears and it brought a sigh of relief to both me and my wife. We have a healthy baby that is growing.

After everything we have been through in the years leading up to this moment…none if it mattered at that moment. I really have a hard time expressing the feelings we were having. The room was silent other than the rhythmic beating of the tiny little heart. It almost seemed to just echo around the room for what felt like days even though it was just a couple of seconds. The look of relief in my wife’s eyes as she listened is something I will never forget. She was finally calm and happy.

About the only reaction I could come up with after hearing our babies heartbeat for the first time was…”holy crap”. And yes, I said that out loud.

We still have some hurdles to cross and that pinnacle point of 12 weeks is still 4 weeks away, but…at this point in time…everything looks perfect. We are starting a family and we couldn’t be any happier. I finally feel like we can start to get really excited about this pregnancy and move past the events of the past. With something concrete to hold onto, we are moving forward with an excited and scared as hell outlook as we begin this journey that will forever change our lives.

Now it is real…and it is awesome.

Starting The Journey

After we got over the shock of what we just experienced, we went over some information on what to expect over the coming weeks…specifically…testing and doctors visits.

There is a lot of testing these days that you can get done for various diseases and other birth defects. We will probably end up getting them all done even though it will not affect our decision on the pregnancy. The peace of mind is really what we are after. With the percentage chance of something being wrong so low…it is better to just know and move forward for us. Each couple will have their own opinions and experience, so I can only speak on how we are and what we need to know.

This is going to be a wild ride…and I am excited as hell.

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The 1st trimester is full of unexpected surprises. You hear about these surprises from friends, family and even on TV, but the full force of the 1st trimester symptoms don’t hit home until…well…they hit home.

You are on a high the first couple of weeks when you find out you are pregnant. It is awesome! Then…this gift you have been given starts equaling extreme exhaustion and feeling like crap. Thanks! We are so excited! So here we are in our 10th week of pregnancy sick as a dog…and everyone is happy as hell about it. Ironic right?

Every Pregnancy Is Different

From what I can gather from everything I hear, morning sickness is one of those pregnancy miracles that completely varies depending upon the woman and sometimes pregnancy to pregnancy. Unluckily for my wife, it is hitting her pretty hard right now but that is a great sign of things to come.

The doctors office put her on Zofran to help…and it has…to a point. At least now she can keep something down other than crackers in between naps.

For my super productive, organized wife, the debilitating tiredness and gut wrenching nausea is hard to handle. We have had to have a couple of those “take it easy” conversations and it doesn’t help she is scheduled to take her PE exam (huge thing for an engineer) and she is still working full time. Just tying all of that exhausts me and I’m not cooking up a baby!

Morning Sickness! Awesome!

The flip side to this entire situation is that strong symptoms¬† at this stage in the game is a good thing. With everything we have been through up until this point we’ll take the negative side affects if that means everything is happy and healthy. It is hilarious (at least to me) when my wife says, “I feel like crap” and everyone we come in contact with says “That’s awesome!”.

I really feel bad for my wife through this. I can’t imagine how it feels to be like this 24/7 and she keeps on saying “I’m sorry”. It’s not her fault. We’re pregnant! Woohoo!